First of all, thank you for sending the comments and questions to the site in the past month. May God bless you, your work in Him and His Holy Spirit guide you to know Him day by day. I’d like to answer two questions here before we move on to today’s topic. Q1: “Is baptism important and necessary for Christians?” According to God’s Word, the answer is definitely “YES.” “Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? We were therefore buried with Him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was  raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.” ——Romans 6: 3-4  Being baptized in public denotes that we died to sin, and have united with Christ Jesus in His resurrection. Baptism for Christians is a commitment and announcement. It is the Great Commission as well. “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of age.”——Matthew 28:19-20  Q2: “Can Mary or other saints such as Peter, Paul, John or James…, etc. save you when you worship them or pray to them?” The answer is definitely “NOT.” For it said in the Holy Bible, “then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that man stands before you healed. He is ‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the capstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.”——Acts 4:10-12 Jesus Christ is our only Savior!

In addition to the above two questions, I’d like to remind our viewers to be wary of the false prophets or teachings. “Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves.”—–Matthew 7:15; “But there were also false prophets among the people, just as there will be false teachers among you. They will secretly introduce destructive heresies, even denying the sovereign Lord who bought them—bringing swift destruction on themselves.”—–2 Peter 2:1 We’ve been encouraging our viewers to read God’s Word consistentently because then we won’t believe in the deceitful teachings. “Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming.”——-Ephesians 4:14 If there is a belief or teaching which believes that only New Testament or Old Testament is about the truth, that being said, only believes half of the Holy Bible, what do you think about it? Some of the beliefs deems Jesus as a god, and also believes any human can be a god some day by good deeds. How do you think about it? Do you know what’s wrong with these teachings? Let’s remember what God said in the Holy Bible: “and how—- you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,…” 2 Timothy 3:15-16; “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—  and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.”—–Ephesians 2:8-9

1. Self awareness: the first step of the healing

Surrender! Choose a therapist or an interactive group to assist you getting out of the addictions first. I believe some people need help from the professionals. There is a simple criteria for you when you’re looking for the formal therapy. Ask yourself : Do you feel safe with this person or group? Can you reveal yourself without being shamed? Some people said they had been shamed by therapists and by groups. Then do they know how to treat co-dependence?…etc.

2. Treat the co-dependence—the core of compulsivity

Dr. Timmen Cermak writes:

“The primary purpose of a long-term interactive group is to provide a setting in which the issues of co-dependency emerge spontaneously….Interactive group therapy works best when members discover themselves behaving inside the group much as they do in real life—being distrustful, controlling their feelings, sacrificing their own needs to ensure that others are taken care of, revealing only carefully chosen parts of themselves…then they finally understand that those behaviors reflect habitual and unconscious patterns, the group can become a laboratory for experimenting with alternative behaviors.”

I truly believe that all of us who identify ourselves as co-dependent will have to go through some kind of grief process if we want to be free of our compulsivity. The Lord Jesus can heal you through letting you experience and feel your original wound and His power can set you free from your compulsivity! Need to know how? Please check my previous articles.

3. Forgiveness

We need to forgive ourselves and forgive our parents.  Actually, a good loving relationship  is healing. Somebody once said, “Love is nature’s psychotherapy.” I understand forgiveness needs power. Pray to the Lord for giving you the power to forgive and love the people who hurt you before.

Mother’s day has just passed and Father’s day is approaching around the corner. Being a father or mother at your family, would you be willing to ask the forgiveness from your children when you’ve acknowledged you hurt them before? This is the beginning of the healing. It’s never too late to take actions!!!

The next following articles, we’re going to spend some time on different topics such as rejection, fantasy bond, creative prayer,….etc. Please also share your testimony with us if you have experienced any inner child healing from the Lord. Just feel free to e-mail me your story. Thanks.

Blessings,

Miriam White

“I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them, I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God.”—–Ezekiel 11:19-20