Do You Want to Overcome Strongholds in Your Marriage?——-Transforming Your Child Within May Be the Key (1)

Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’ The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’ (Matthew 25: 34-40)

First off, I’d like to thank all of you who have shared the Good News ( through referral the site ) to your beloved ones, relatives or friends in last month. The traffic of the site has risen ten times than before. I’m so grateful to the Lord for His Holy Spirit’s fire moving you to do His work. May the Lord  Himself bless and strengthen the work which has been done through us in His Kingdom. Praise God! Give all the glory to you, Lord!

People may be able to list hundreds of factors which would influence their marriage relationships. Today, we’re only going to discover a few invisible strongholds which particularly have existed in your INNER CHILD since your early lives, and these strongholds might have been the destructive roots in you for a long time and caused fatal wounds in your marriage. You might just do not recognize them before. However, the Lord Jesus can demolish these strongholds for you as long as you trust in Him. He can set you free!

Do you know that Jesus has a goal for each of us? Yes, His desire is to completely fulfill it. There is no doubt that Jesus definitely likes His children to enjoy themselves in their marriage relationships.  However, He also knows some of you are now under various kinds of trials in your marriage. He really cares for you. He can rescue your marriage. Well, do you know who ultimately will gain the benefit from being under the trials? Let’s see what God says in the Bible: “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him.” ( James 1:12 )

I believe that transforming your child within may be more than wise to rescue your marriage. Now, before entering the main part of today’s article, please allow me to  ask you a few questions. Do you live in one side of the wall of defense and your spouse live in the other side? Would you rather spend excessive amount of time indulging yourself in different kinds of hobbies than stay with your wife doing something together? For instance, you’re alone watching TV, playing games or you’re with your friends playing golf, going fishing,….etc. Or, you’d rather work day and night in the office than go back home earlier. Would you rather focus everything on your children than spend time getting together with your husband? Or, you’d rather let your schedule filled with many clubs, classes, and church activities than spend time sharing what you think and how you feel with your husband. If your answer is “yes”, thus, I fully understand you are actually LONELY although you are alone busy with doing a lot of things. I have been there before so I know it.

When I look back my more than twenty year journey of marriage, I know I love my husband now as much as I  met him at the first glance in the Lord long time ago, and I’m sure my husband has the same feelings to me as well. I have to say we had together gone through hard time in our relationships for a period of time because our old natures were on the way of transforming. My husband and I both have dominant parents, and a lot of time our parents were just like rulers in their own kingdoms. During the long journey, thank God, I feel I’m on the way to become the WIFE God wants me to be in my marriage relationships day by day, and the influence from my mom has decreased step by step. My mom has also become one of the sisters in God’s Kingdom. She has been willing to obey God’s will gradually at her old age. This is indeed God’s grace to my family. Praise the Lord! I’m so grateful to the Lord too for I’m able to pray for my father-in- law almost every day for his salvation instead of making judgement on him. I can see him through God’s mercy now. The mercy of God triumphs over judgement! It’s hard for me to do that. Really hard. I cannot accomplish it myself. It is from the power of the Lord. Jesus does it! Jesus heals me! God’s Word frees me!

1. Matthew 5:33-37

Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.’ But I tell you, Do not swear at all: either by heaven, for it is God’s throne; or by the earth, for it is His footstool; or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the Great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make even one hair white or black. Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.

Around 23 years ago, 4 years after I had become a Christian,  Rev. John Standford and his wife Paula, the authors of “The Transformation of the Inner Man” were invited to come to my church for holding a healing meeting. There were a lot of people coming from different churches asking for the prayers from them. Being a young Christian, I was so curious at that time why so many people needed God’s healing. I even did not know how the servants of God ( John Standford and his wife ) would help God’s people. I remembered there were a sister with her husband from my big fellowship group came to attend the meeting as well. I didn’t know what their prayer request was until the sister was pregnant afterwards. I heard she had suffered from miscarriages a few times and was so eager to have a baby. It was so good to know the birth of the baby finally brought a lot of joy to the sister, her husband, and the whole family. Thanks for God’s grace.

“I don’t want to be a mother like my mom” shouted in this sister’s life since her early age. This was the inner OATH which was commanded to the whole body through the sister’s mind and brain. The sister was so eager to have a baby, but the oath which she had made in her just like somebody had programmed in the computer would never change and prohibited her from pregnancy unless somebody could figure it out and break it. The sister was the jewel in her mother’s crown. Her mother thought she could rely everything on her. And she really did. She brought up the smaller children for her mother so that her mother could focus on her career. How many nights the sister felt scared, cried and still must take care of her younger siblings when their mother was not at home. The sister hated her mother because her mother caused the hurt to her so she told herself she hates to be a mother and will never want to become a mother in her own life.

The other oaths such as “I will never have a baby boy.” (Perhaps she got hurt in the relationships with her dad or brother,… etc); “I will never have a baby girl.” (Perhaps she got hurt in the relationships with her mother or sister,…etc); “I will never let any man to touch me again.” (Perhaps she was raped by a man before,eg: dad, brothers, relatives, strangers,..etc); “I will take my revenge on her (mother or sister).” (Perhaps this oath will result in taking his revenge on all women or his own wife or daughter.) “I’ll never get married.” ( Perhaps the person had the severe fear of his parents’ failed marriage. )

Some other oaths don’t seem so bad but may cause some health problems. Some people might transfer their parents’ instructions to be their own inner oaths, such as “You’d better control your temper!”; “Be the best of the best!”; “You are the best”; “Never make the same mistake again!”,…etc. Sometimes I feel these certain kinds of oaths will have bad impacts on the relationships between us and others,too. I know we cannot identify every kind of inner oath by ourselves but the Holy Spirit of God can find all of them out. Praise the Lord!

2. Matthew 7:1-2

Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measures to you.

3.  Galatians 6:7

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

4. Deuteronomy 5:16

Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

The laws of  “root of judgement and expectation” , “sow and reap” and “honor your parents”  in marriage relationships

A lot of women were ashamed of their fathers for being alcoholics, so they usually married men for being alcoholics or their husbands will become alcoholics sooner or later based on the women’s destructive root of judgement and expectation in the inner beings. If you had the fathers who abused you when you were young, you might marry the men who abused you later, too. The men who brought up by dominant mothers usually attract the women whose personalities are similar to their moms. The cycle will be: alcoholic fathers and inebriate husbands; apathy fathers and aloof husbands; abusive fathers and opprobrious husbands. Picky mothers and fickle wives; nagging mothers and annoying wives; lazy mothers and indolent wives. However, if the children didn’t make any judgement on the parents or ever made judgements but intervened by God’s grace, the children won’t reap what they sowed. Sometimes when the daughter made the judgement on the irresponsible mother instead of the father, the daughter can even reap through her husband what she sowed.  The other time we can also reap through our children, families, relatives, colleagues, or ourselves,…what we sowed!

5.  Romans 2:1

You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgement on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgement do the same things.

Have you ever said you would not yell at your children just like your mom did to you when You were young? Unfortunately you might exactly do the same thing. Have you ever noticed that some people around you suffered from their marriage because they  committed adultery? Or the friends around you might have divorced several times, and they are still struggling in their marriage now. Look at their background. They might just exactly do the same things as their parents did before.

Dear friends, we pray God’s grace to come upon you. The Lord Jesus can not only rescue your marriage but also save you. If you’re willing to know more about Jesus and His salvation, please check the previous article dated 09/16/12. We expect you to become our brothers or sisters in the near future! Praise the Lord!

Dear all, do you know how to completely get out of the bondages in your lives? Please allow me to emphasize it one more time: recite God’s Word, and put God’s Word into practice. I believe after your sins have been forgiven, your inner beings have been healed and strengthened , no longer weak, then you can put God’s Word into practice! You will be blessed when you put God’s Word into practice. It’s the biblical promise. Let’s see what the Bible tells us:

Psalm 1 :2-3

But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.

James 1:25

But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it–he will be blessed in what he does.

Next month we’re going to offer you the steps of healing. Thanksgiving is around the corner, too. I wish to collect the testimonies of God’s healing on you if you have any. Please e-mail me your testimony to Thanks for sharing.

I’m looking forward to seeing you again at Thanksgiving. May you keep on being in the wonderful inner child healing and transformation process!

God bless your marriage,

Miriam White


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Inner Child Healing Q&A and Why Is Jesus Christ the Origin of Healing? (2)

Dear friends,

Do you know what the “good news” is referring to? Jesus and His work of redemption, through His life, death, and resurrection, is called the good news. The plan of redemption meanwhile runs parallel with the fall. In the beginning, God created everything, and He saw that it was good. The man Adam and woman Eve were given a paradise in which to live and have dominion. But sin entered the picture and mankind fell to its allurement. This was the fall. So now do you have better ideas of “good news” ( Jesus Christ ) and “bad news” ( the fall )?  Bad news: there is evil in the world; and our relationships with God and with each other are broken. Good news: God has from the very beginning planned and promised that He would fix what humanity has broken. God’s loving plan of REDEMPTION was unveiled in Jesus Christ, and now we await the glorious return of our Savior Jesus Christ, when all will be made new and perfect. This is the RESTORATION, the final act of God’s plan for us!

Now I’d like to mention a few Scriptures from the Bible which wrote about Jesus, the Savior and His redemption, healing, and restoration. All the prophecies from the old Testament to the New Testament of the Bible which predicted the birth, death, and resurrection of Jesus, the Savior had been fulfilled. I’m sorry for not having enough time to write every prophecy and fulfillment in here.

1. The prophet Isaiah wrote the book of Isaiah of the old Testament in the Bible 700 years ago before Jesus was born.

1) Isaiah 7:14: Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and will call Him Immanuel.

2) Isaiah 9:6: For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on His shoulders. and He will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

3)  Isaiah 53, it predicted: Who has believed our message and to whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed? He grew up before Him like a tender shoot, and like a root out of dry ground. He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to Him, nothing in His appearance that we should desire Him. He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces He was despised and we esteemed Him not. Surely He took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows, yet we considered Him stricken by God, smitten by Him, and afflicted. But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, and by His wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; and the Lord has laid on Him the iniquity of us all. He was oppressed and afflicted, yet He did not open his mouth; He was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is silent, so He did not open his mouth. By oppression and judgement He was taken away. And who can speak of His descendants? For He was cut off from the land of the living; for the transgression of my people He was stricken. He was assigned a grave with the wicked, and with the rich in His death, though He had done no violence, nor was any deceit in His mouth. Yet it was the Lord’s will to crush Him and cause Him to suffer, and though the Lord makes His life a guilt offering, He will see His offspring and prolong His days, and the will of the Lord will prosper in His hand. After the suffering of His soul, He will see the light of life and be satisfied; by His knowledge my righteous servant will justify many, and He will bear their iniquities. Therefore I will give Him a portion among the great and He will divide the spoils with the strong, because He poured out His life unto death, and was numbered with the transgressors. For He bore the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.

2. Luke, the physician,and the author of the book of Luke in the new Testament, wrote about the birth of Jesus

1) Luke 1:26-35: In the sixth month, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, to a virgin pledge to be married to a man named Joseph , a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.” Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. You will be with child and give birth to a son, and you are to give Him the name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the son of Most High. The Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David, and He will reign over the house of Jacob forever; His kingdom will never end.” “How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?” The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will shadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God.

2) Luke  2:1-14: In those days Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world. (This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria.) And everyone went to his own town to register. So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David. He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child. While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn. And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.” Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom His favor rests.”

3. Let’s see how Jesus said about who He was and how He died and rose up the third day:

1) John 8:12: When Jesus spoke again to the people, He said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

2) Mark 10: 32-34: They were on their way up to Jerusalem, with Jesus leading the way, and the disciples were astonished, while those who followed were afraid. again he took the Twelve aside and told them what was going to happen to Him. ‘We are going up to Jerusalem,” he said, “and the Son of Man will be betrayed to the chief priests and teachers of the law. They will condemn Him to death and will hand Him over to the Gentiles, who will mock Him and spit on Him, flog Him and kill Him. Three days later He will rise.”

3) Matthew 26:63-64: …The high priest said to Him, “I charge you under oath by the living God: Tell us if you are the Christ, the Son of God.” “Yes, it is as you say, ” Jesus replied. “But  I say to all of you: In the future you will see the Son of Man sitting at the right hand of the Mighty One and coming on the clouds of heaven.”

4. The empty tomb and Jesus’ resurrection

1) J0hn 20:1-2: Early on the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene went to the tomb and saw that the stone had been removed from the entrance. So she came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one Jesus loved, and  said, “They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we don’t know where they have put Him!”

2) John 20:10-18: Then the disciples went back to their homes, but Mary stood outside the tomb crying. As she wept, she bent over to look into the tomb and saw two angels in white, seated where Jesus’ body had been, one at the head and the other at the foot. They asked her, “Woman, why are you crying?” “They have taken my Lord away,” she said, “and I don’t know where they have put Him.” At this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, but she did not realize that it was Jesus. “Woman,” he sais, “Why are you crying? Who is it you are looking for?” Thinking he was the gardener, she said, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have put Him, and I will get Him.”  Jesus said to her, “Mary.”  She turned toward Him and cried out in Aramaic, “Rabboni!” ( which means Teacher). Jesus said, “Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet returned to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, ‘I am returning to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.'” Mary Magdalene went to the disciples with the news: “I have seen the Lord!” And she told them that he had said these things to her.

5. Jesus healed every disease and sickness among the people and performed numerous miraculous signs and wonders.

1) Matthew 4:23-25: Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, preaching the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people. News about Him spread all over Syria, and people brought to Him all who were ill with various diseases, those suffering severe pain, the demon-possessed , those having seizures, and the paralyzed, and He healed them.Large crowds from Galilee, the Decapolis, Jerusalem, Judea and the region across the Jordan followed Him.

2) Nobody is able to write down everything what Jesus had done when He was on earth. Please read the books of Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, …etc. of the Bible, you’ll get the better picture of God’s mercy and love for mankind.

6. Jesus said about His glorious second coming. Nobody knows when it is! It is the end of the age.

1) Matthew 24:30-31, 36: At that time the sign of the Son of Man will appear in the sky, and all the nations of the earth will mourn. They will see the Son of Man coming on the clouds of the sky, with power and glory. And He will send His angels with a loud trumpet call, and they will gather His elect from the four winds, from one end of the heavens to the other….No one knows about the day or hour, not even the angels in heavens, nor the Son, but only the Father.

2) 1 Thessalonians 5:2-3:…for you know very well that the day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night. While people are saying, “Peace and safety,” destruction will come on them suddenly, as labor pains on a pregnant woman, and they will not escape.

Christianity is not a religion but a belief which guides you back to the Creator who has created you. A real Christian would deem the Bible (from the old Testament to the new Testament) as truth, because it says, “ll Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” ( 2 Timothy 3:16 ) Moreover, Christianity is not a dead belief, but a belief which you can experience. Jesus said that He is the Christ, the Son of God. And Jesus has resurrected indeed! Because Jesus is the living God, He can listen to your prayers and answer your prayers.

Dear friends, are you ready to experience Jesus now? I think this might be the opportunity for you to think about it. “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only son that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” ( John 3:16 )  Because nobody knows the time when Jesus will return, before His returning, please grab every opportunity which leads you to accept His salvation. If  now the Holy Spirit of God touches you, and you like to come back to the Lord but don’t know how to accept His salvation, please contact me through my e-mail: I’m more than happy to help you enter the kingdom of God and start to experience God’s love and mercy!

“And if Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith.” ( 1 Corinthians 15:14 )

The following part of today’s article, I’d like to list Q and A for the inner child healing section. Thank you for the questions you wrote to me . Although just a few people sent me several questions, I know it’s a good start for you and for me. Let’s keep on good work!

1. Q: How could you let a person re-experience the event which had happen 20 or 30 years ago? Was hypnosis used or involved?

1. A: Hypnosis was not used or involved. I don’t know what it is about, so surely I don’t know how to use it. When I prayed for myself or other people, it was the Holy Spirit of God letting the person retrace back to his old memories and ancient pains.

2. Q: I’m not sure whether I’m able to pray for my inner child healing or not. Don’t I need a pastor to pray for me?

2. A: Yes, you can pray for yourself, too. I have been praying for myself and other people, and I haven’t been in any seminary yet. Please read Hebrews 4: 14-16: Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

3. Q: Some books talk about meditation. What do you think about it? Is it helpful?

3. A: I only meditate on Jesus and God’s words. It’s very important to do that, since the healing comes from Jesus and the truth in the Bible. Those books I have mentioned before, I only read the parts which talked about the dysfunctional family system, as for their methods of meditation, if not focus on Jesus and God’s words, I always skipped them.

4.Q: If I’m taking medication, shall I stop it when I start to pray for myself?

4.A: It’s your choice and you need to consult your doctor. Taking medication doesn’t mean that you don’t have faith in God. As long as the treatment is on the right direction, it’s fine to do the both ( medication and prayers ) at the same time.

5.Q When I prayed to Jesus to bring me back to my past life, an event came up to my mind which hurt me a lot. I felt I hated my dad and my brother, for my dad always compared myself with my brother. He thought “I am stupid” and ‘I am trash.” I have tried my best to please my dad, what else can I do? I feel very guilty  because I hate my dad and brother.

5. A:I feel very sorry about your story. I totally understand how you felt about your dad and brother and why you hated them. It’s very hard to please people as nobody is perfect. We’d better learn to please God. Stop blaming yourself , because only God Himself is the judge. I’m glad that your genuine feelings are out now! Let’s learn to pray for Jesus’ healing and forgiveness.

1) Pray to Jesus  and ask Him to forgive your dad and brother, because they mistreated you.

2) Pray to Jesus and ask Him to forgive you because you hated your dad and brother.

3) Pray to Jesus to give you power to forgive your dad and brother.

4) Stop judging your dad, brother, and yourself. Tell Jesus you’re willing to let Him be the judge.

5) Jesus knows your hurts. Pray to Him and ask Him to pour His love to your heart and heal the wounds. He will, definitely.

6) Pray to Jesus and pray His power to break the stronghold of perfectionism in you because you think you are not good enough. And also break the influences on you from the corrupt talk, such as “You are stupid”, “You are trash.”  In Proverbs 4:24: “Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.”

7) God’s words for you: Psalm 139:13-16: “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”  God said you are unique. Nobody can replace you in the world. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Please meditate these Scriptures day and night. Believe what God said about you and accept your image which was from God, too.

P.S. After having prayed for the forgiveness, if you still feel hard to forgive the people who hurt you before, that means it might still have some other events related to you and the people who have hurt you, therefore, it had better keep on praying until all the hurts being healed.

6. Q: My church hasn’t mentioned about the ministry of inner child healing. Why?

6 A: In my 27  years of being a Christian, I’ve been staying at 7 churches, and only 2 churches were open to the ministry of inner child healing. I was so blessed to be involved in this ministry. I’ve understood it is God’s will to save people, heal people and transform people’s minds, too. I wish people don’t limit God’s power, and are willing to experience He is a living God day by day!

7.Q: What’s the purpose of your site? I feel this is a good site, but doesn’t have much traffic. Why?

7.A: 1) A I’m glad that you think this is a good site. First off, I’d like to thank those people who like or follow my site. Thank you for you have shown the support to me. I’m a low tech person, and very traditional,too. I seldom use facebook or twitter. I still like to contact people through e-mails. So please feel free to tell people about the ministry of my site if you think it’s helpful. There’s a “follow” button on the web page, click it and put down your e-mail if you like to receive my article when I publish the new one. Thanks!

7.A:2) The purpose of my site is making the disciples of Jesus. This is my calling from the Lord. I wish the ministry of inner child healing through God’s way would reach to the people in the world who are willing to know Jesus or in the needs of His healings. Praise the Lord! So far I saw some people from the states, Great Britain, Australia, Africa, Indonesia..,etc visiting my site through search engines. I’ve been praying for all of you God’s mercy and love will come upon you and you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ.

Thank you for taking time to read my article today. I’m looking forward to seeing you on our next topic “marriage”.  Following every topic, we’ll always have the healing and testimony sections.

God bless,

Miriam White

Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. Matthew 28: 19-20.

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Why is Jesus Christ the Origin of Healing?(1)

Dear friends,

Have you ever thought about the question: “Do you have to become a believer in Jesus Christ, before asking healing from Him?” This is a very significant question for everyone, isn’t it? Thanks to the person who e-mailed me this question last week, I’m going to share two stories with you today.

First story:

There was a person who put two bottles in the cabinet at night. ‘A’ bottle only contained clear water and ‘B’ bottle contained clear water mixed with black ink. The person had very strong confidence in what he thought. He affirmed that the ‘B’ bottle would become as clear as the ‘A’ bottle the next morning. However, he was very disappointed by himself the next morning,  ‘A’ and ‘B’ bottles remained exactly the same as the night before, and nothing had changed at all.

Some people think that there isn’t a higher power that controls and causes miracles in the world. Their stereotypic view of Christians: Christians just imagine that circumstances will improve and coincidentally they do. However, this story shows that only will-power changes nothing. I have also noticed some people arguing about the relationship between prayer effects and God in Christianity before. They concluded it isn’t true that Christians attribute the answered prayers to God. These people don’t think there is a living God who answers the prayers.

Let’s see what the bible says about it:

Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. (Hebrews 11:1)

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him. (Hebrews 11:6 )

Soon afterward, Jesus went to a town called Nain, and His disciples and a large crowd went along with Him. As He approached the town gate, a dead person was being carried out-the only son of his mother, and she was a widow. And a large crowd from the town was with her. When the Lord saw her, His heart went out to her and He said, “Don’t cry.” Then He went up and touched the coffin, and those carrying it stood still. He said, “Young man, I say to you, get up!” The dead man sat up and began to talk and Jesus gave him back to his mother. They were all filled with awe and praised God. “A great prophet has appeared among us,” they said. “God has come to help his people.” This news about Jesus spread throughout Judea and the surrounding country. ( Luke 7:11-17 )

From the above scriptures we know it is the Lord Jesus who healed the widow’s son, and the healing had nothing to do with the widow’s or the son’s own faith. Please don’t misunderstand me. I didn’t say faith is not important. What I’d like to clarify is if a living God does not exist, no prayers can be answered no matter what faith we have.

Second story:

It was a blessing to me to take part in a church’s ministry several years ago and pray for people’s needs daily. The needs included the bodies , minds, and spirits of the people. I saw that God answered prayers and experienced God daily at this church. Praise the Lord!  I particularly remembered there was a father who brought his son to the pastor and asked for healing prayers. Both the father and son were not believers yet at that time. The son had a high risk of committing suicide any time. When the pastor asked the father whether he knew who Jesus was and His resurrection, the father answered that he had no intention to know anything about Jesus. He only wished for his son to be healed right away. The pastor refused his prayer request at that moment. As a result the son’s health grew worse each day.

A couple of years later, we came back to visit the church after we moved due to my husband’s relocation of his work. We found the father and son as our brothers in God’s kingdom, with the son totally recovered. Thank God. Thanks for the Lord’s mercy!

Would you like to know and believe in Jesus Christ? It’s really important in your life to discover Jesus is the only living God! Please continue to meet Him in my next blog. Thank You!

God bless,

Miriam White

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Inner Child Healing Q and A will be post on 09/16/2012

Hi all,
Have you been starting the journey of inner child healing yet? I’ve received a few e-mails these days for asking some related questions. Thank you. Your questions are very meaningful to all of us. I’ll get the questions all together and answer them on 09/16/2012. But, there was one question I think I have to mention and answer it today. One person asked why nothing really came up to herself after she prayed? Did she have to continue to try? I would say it takes time to calm yourself and fully surrender to God. When people closed their eyes and prayed, they might be still thinking a lot of questions, such as: what would God want me to do? Would He embarrass me? Would He force me to forgive somebody who hurt me before? I don’t like to change myself anyway because it’s not my fault. I’m afraid God won’t help me when I come to Him because I’m such a bad person,etc.

I would say when you come to the Lord Jesus, just focus on Jesus Himself! Who you are and what you have done and become or what you’re thinking is not as important as who He really is! Jesus is the only one savior! I have some suggestions for you. First, come to the Lord and tell Jesus what really bother you now and ask Him to help you surrender before Him. Second, trying to listen carefully the small voice from the Lord is going to tell you. Third, trying to read the Bible every day is very essential. Fourth, come to the Lord as many times as you can and never give up when nothing happen after you pray. Fifth, any decision or action you’ll make or take must conform to the principles of the Bible.

I wish this site could be the small workshop for “How to heal your inner child?” through God’s way. This is your chance to experience that Jesus is the only one real and living God. Please do not fall behind!

God bless,

Miriam White

For my Father’s will is that everyone who looks to the Son and believes in Him shall have eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. ( John 6:40 )

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The Transformation of Your Mind—the beginning of whole self healing (body, mind, spirit)

Hi, there! I’ve missed all of you during my three-week vacation. I just got back, so I’m still on my way to update my blog . First off, I just want to thank those that have supported me and given me helpful advice through their comments. I look forward to seeing more in the future. Now, how have you been doing recently? Are you feeling contented with your life so far? Don’t worry! Even if you’re feeling like it’s deteriorating, today could be the day to get the hope to release the pain.

In the book “The Transformation of the Inner Man,” Rev. John Sandford addressed that the greatest weakness among the church ministries is overlooking the necessity and method of inner holiness and transformation. In summary, it means that we haven’t really or seriously dealt with our “false selves or the minds” before. In the Bible it says, “they dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace.” (Jeremiah 6:14 and 8:11)  The Apostle Paul also said “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —- his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2)

For healing, there is a big difference between Christianity and psychology. Psychologists try their best to fix a person’s self-image, to build up the self-confidence of the person. The healing in Christianity releases the person from the ruined power in the flesh, and transforms the mind of the person through the power of God. For me, I also agree that healing is about the work of confession and repentance. Through the work of God’s Holy Spirit, the sins deeply buried in a person will be manifested. Moreover, through the blood of Jesus Christ, sins can be cleansed and forgiven. Surely the person’s mind will eventually be renewed and healed by God’s Word.  In the Bible, it says, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)  This doesn’t mean we can’t pray for ourselves.  As long as we come to God and pray by faith, God listens to our prayers. In this verse, “support”  is important. It also emphasizes that to be healed, we must come out of isolation and hiding. This means finding a person, or ideally a group of significant others, whom we are willing to trust.

In the book “Healing the Shame that Binds You,” John Bradshaw talked about grief work, validation, and support. He said, “Perhaps the most damaging consequence of being shamed-based is that we don’t know how depressed and angry we really are. We don’t actually feel our unresolved grief. Our false selves and ego defenses keep us from experiencing.” “The greatest tragedy in all of this is that we know grief can naturally be healed if we have support. The reason people go into delayed grief is that there’s nobody there to validate and support them. You cannot grieve alone. Millions of us adult children tried it. We went to sleep crying into our pillows or locked ourselves in the bathroom.” “Delayed grief is the core of what is called post-traumatic stress disorder.” “The feelings involved in ‘grief work’ are anger, remorse, hurt, depression, sadness, and loneliness.” “Grief work is a process that may take a substantial amount of time to finish.”  John Bradshaw also encouraged people to do their grief work with a qualified therapist. He even thought some people might need residential treatment.

In brief, the unresolved grief work is a re-experiencing process, liberating, and integrating your lost Inner Child. My personal healing experience was: about 17  years ago, there was a pastor who gave me a bunch of books to read talking about the dysfunctional families. He guided me to pray for God’s healing, and then I finished the major parts of grief work by myself within a couple of years.  Praise the Lord!  The Lord healed me. Jesus Himself was my validation and He was also my support, too.

It’s widely recognized that a child’s personality is formed by the age of four or five, certainly by six. Some people even think the age can be set as early as at three. I have ever helped a sister from the church who has suffered from vigilance for a few years. I didn’t know what childhood pain could leave her until, in conducting prayers with her, I heard her relive her hurts hour by hour, hurt by hurt. Praise the Lord!  The sister has not only relieved from the tension and anxiety but also gotten out of her fantasy world and bond after the in-depth sessions of prayers. She has stopped feeling sad after one year.  More joy on her face, and she looked more beautiful day by day. The beauty was coming from her inside. Jesus has healed her! Her mind has been tranformed.  Her whole self ( body, mind and spirit ) has been healed. Now, you may like to know a bit about her parents, right?  The sister’s parents were a very educated couple, and good Christians. However, eventually I understood her mom was dominating over her most of the time and only she always kept good performance could please her mom. Her dad had also a smattering of character disordered personality traits.

Some people asked me about how much time was needed for a person to get the hurts out and finish the grief work. I would say a typical praying session might last for two hours, but sometimes longer, depend on the need. I feel, based on my experience, an adult basically might need at least thirty praying sessions for the grief work.  One session per week. Since no two persons have had the same childhood experiences, and each individual’s defense system varies, there’s no way to estimate the exact required hours. Healing is a process and it’s in God’s hand. It says in the Bible, “There is a time for everything,…and a time to heal.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1,3)

According to psychologist Gershen Kaufman in his book “Shame,” he said that depression, alienation, self-doubt, isolating loneliness, paranoid and schizoid phenomena, compulsive disorders, splitting of the self, perfectionism, a deep sense of inferiority, inadequacy or failure, the so-called borderline conditions and disorders of narcissism-all result from shame. Shame destroys self-esteem.

Maybe you’ve also noticed that some scientific evidence indicates self-hate (or low self-esteem) can play a part in everything from head colds and accident-proneness, to headaches, intestinal problems, and cancer. It’s obvious that some of the concrete scientific evidence shows the linking between disturbed emotions and illness. And, it is now also recognized that there is usually an emotional component in high blood pressure and heart attacks. Life changing events such as trouble with in-laws, death of the spouse or children, divorce, loss of a job, financial difficulties, or change in school, etc. would also predispose a person to many different forms of illness. According to some group of researchers, different kinds of illnesses triggered by life changing events could also include colds, skin disease, heart attacks and tuberculosis.

Cecit G. Osborne pointed out a case in his book “The Art of Learning to Love Yourself” talking about a lady named Jean who was dying of cancer in her mid-thirties. Jean said she couldn’t prove that there was any connection between her illness and her mother’s attitude, but she felt deep down that there was some definite relationship. Her mother always insisted that her children were perfect. However, Jean knew she wasn’t perfect, of course, and she thought this created a terrible conflict between the knowledge that she was an imperfect kid like everyone else and the goal of perfection that her mother set for her. Jean said that the goal of perfection has been an intolerable burden all her life. She felt that this conflict she had lived with so long was somehow related to her cancer.

I totally agree we must cease blaming ourselves for what we have become and to avoid any tendency to blame our parents, because nobody is perfect. Only God could assess the blame or fix responsibility. Jesus said, “For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Matthew 9:13) We are sinners and we all need His mercy and salvation. Dear friends, if you haven’t known Jesus yet, please go to a Christian church nearby and start to know the story of the living God: God’s creation, human’s fall, Jesus’ redemption and the restoration. After you have become God’s children, you could come to Him any time by faith and ask for His guidance and healing.  As for the children of God, are you ready to start the unresolved grief work today?

A) Find a quiet corner, only you and God.

B) Get ready a pen, journal; or recorder.

C) When you’re in a low mood, particularly good for doing the grief work.

D) Don’t limit the work of Holy Spirit.

How to pray?

Step 1:

Dear Lord Jesus, I’ve come to you. Please shine your light upon me. Holy Spirit, please guide me to go back to my past life, from my birth to the current, has any event  happened in my life and caused my personality growing immaturely, please let it come up now. Thank God and praise the Lord. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen!

Step 2:

It takes time to completely calm yourself. Wait before the Lord patiently! Write it down or record it when the Lord shows anything in your mind or anything comes to your mouth. It’s the time to let your genuine emotions fully come out. Don’t think God can not stand it. God knows everything even you don’t say it. Don’t limit the work of Holy Spirit, either. God can start from any event He thinks good for you. Based on my experience, the most current event which hurt you will come out first and then it takes time to touch your core part.

Step 3:

Confession, repentance and forgiveness. ( will have the detailed guidance and resolution on the next post )

Step 4:

God’s Word

Every day, be sure to read the Bible

one chapter from the Old Testament.

one chapter from the New Testament.

one chapter from the book of Psalm

Make sure to not jump from one book to another randomly when you’re reading the bible.

Dear brothers and sisters, if you have any questions about the healing prayers (from step 1~3), need further instructions of how to pray regarding the step 3. or need prayer support and guidance, if you like, let me know through the comment box on my web or e-mail me: by 09/07/2012, I will arrange all the questions and needs and try my best to answer them on my next post which will be on 09/16/2012. Don’t worry. Privacy will be always kept privatly.

Make sure to read God’s words every day, because it plays the important part of the healing. In the Bible it says, “My son, pay attention to what I say; listen closely to my words. Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; for they are life to those who find them and health to a man’s whole body.” (Proverbs 4: 20-22)

Dear friends, if you like to know more about Jesus and His salvation or have any questions about Christianity, please also contact me. I’m more than happy to help you. Wish you to join God’s big family very soon.

Wish you all have a good start on this spiritual journey!

God bless,

Miriam White

My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you. (Job 42: 5).  

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Perfectionism (2)—–in school system; parenting

If a child was teased in front of others at a young age, the child will probably carry the wounds in the heart along with anxiety for the rest of life. Let me ask you some questions. Have you ever heard at school that  somebody was labeled as “stupid”, “idiot”, “retarded”, “trash”, “four eyes”, “chubby chaser”, or “teacher’s pet”, …etc.? A child with developmental deficits, deformities or who is over-weight can be an easy target to be teased. I remember a long time ago a teen-aged girl jumped down from San Francisco’s Golden Gate Bridge because she was mocked as over-weight at school. As for the highly ranked schools, the more bright a child is thought to be, the more popular the child will be.

Do you know if a child was teased at home, the child would most likely transfer the shame by teasing other children at school? Children can be very cruel merely during the elementary years, however parents (or caregivers) and older siblings are usually the people who deliver the cruelest teasing of all.

Dear friends, do you know every child was created unique in God’s way? In the Bible, Psalm 139: 13-14, it says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” In God’s eyes, every child was His wonderful creation, however humans started to ruin this holy point of view. When sin first came into Adam and Eve, unconditional love and acceptance of self seemed to be the hardest task for all humankind.

“Our schools display an enormous bias in educating the mind rather than the whole person. We place major emphasis on reasoning, logic, and math, with almost no concern for emotions, intuition, and creativity.”said John Bradshaw. You also may have already known the grading system in America is A-F. A represents excellence and F associates with failure. At school, when somebody gets a “F”, others will likely associate a “bad” grade with being a bad or defective person. A straight-A student will get the most applause both at school and at home. More often than not, as soon as the straight-A students are no longer the stars and superachievers, they are plagued by deep feelings of shame and guilt. In the meantime, self-denial is likely to occur.

“Denial is the result of the child believing he is bad and idealizing the family or parents.” said John Bradshaw, and Alice Miller said “Depression is the defense against the deep pain over the loss of the self that results from denial.” “Most serious depression originates in self-hate and is an unconscious effort to shut off feelings. Depression is not an emotion, but results from the shutting down of feelings, to avoid feeling.” said Cecil G. Osborne. Dear friends, do you know a paradoxical fact that many good, kind, devoted parents abandon their own children? Do you know why many highly gifted, superachieving and successful people are driven by a deep-seated chronic depression? Why?

As children, if we were loved for our performance or achievements, rather than for ourselves, our true selves were abandoned. Psychologists think that any forms of abuse are abandonment. There are various forms of abuse: physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse,…etc. Emotional abuse can be universal in many places. Now you may have known the reason why people suffer from depression. In fact, ordinary people or the highly achieved and gifted people can suffer from severe depression, because depression is about the lost and abandoned child within.

For the following articles, we’re going to have further discussions on a few case studies of perfectionism as well as testimonies and then move on to the other topics, such as abuse, addictions, marriage, family, work, parenting,…etc. I wish to give you a clearer picture about how our original family system  influences our relationships with our spouse, children, and God. As for the next article right after this one, let me particularly tell you how to enter the self-help praying and healing process. In the Bible, Psalm 147: 3, it says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Let God be your listener, judge, and healer.

Many people before the healing said, “I had a very good childhood. My parents loved me.”, but in many cases they report after the healing, “I never knew how much hurt and damage loving parents can cause, and I can see myself now doing the same thing to my own children.” Neither we nor our parents are perfect. We don’t mean to solely blame our parents. On the contrary, it says in the Bible, “Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you,” Deuteronomy 5:16. It’s very essential to know that to honor our parents (including in-laws) is God’s command to us and when we obey God’s rule, we get God’s blessings. However, I truly understand, for some people, it’s very difficult for them to love their parents.

Occasionally, some people asked me with the same questions: “Since those things happened long ago in childhood, why don’t we just trust God and move forward by faith now?” “We are adults now, no longer children. Why don’t we live in the present? Why do we have to dig the old wounds out?”  I think the problem is: although all the events happened in the past, the hurts are still in the person now. As a matter of fact, nothing is ever lost and can be completely forgotten. The dozens or hundreds of hurting memories have been buried deep in the unconscious mind. Therefore, problems cannot be solved with words, but only through re-experiencing the ancient pains. The ancient pains must be relived and can be relieved! Then the roots which have caused the problems can be cast out.

Do you know the work of the Holy Spirit can guide us to retrieve the repressive memories buried in the unconscious mind? Do you know God will give you the power of forgiveness to forgive people who hurt you, such as your parents, teachers, or classmates,etc….? You can truly forgive your parents, others, yourself, and even God through healing. Until you truly forgive God, the work of forgiveness can’t be done. In the Bible, it says, “A man’s own folly ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the Lord.”—–Proverbs 19:3. Maybe now you’re going to defend yourself on the issue of being against the Lord. You would think God is perfect and has done nothing wrong, how can you complain anything about Him? However, even if you’re a good Christian, you can cry, and ask God from your heart, “If You are a good Heavenly Father, how could You let this happen to me? Why me? It’s not fair. Where were You when I needed You?”

I hope you eventually understand God is good all the time. He never forsakes us. He’s waiting for you to come back. Wish you a nice weekend and see you next time!

God bless,

Miriam White

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Perfectionism —– self awareness(1)

“Oh, my little baby, you’re sleeping the whole night and not crying at all. Mommy loves you.” “You’re not making yourself dirty. Good job! I love you.” “You’re so noisy. You’re a bad child. I don’t like you anymore.” “Be quiet, or I’ll hit you.” “Keep the good grade. I’m proud of you.” In your mind, have you felt familiar with these voices coming out from your parents’ (or caregivers’ ) mouths since you were little?

In fact, children’s first beliefs about themselves were formed from their parents’ (or caregivers’ ) feelings and desires toward them. The only way a child can develop a sense is through a relationship with another. We are “we” before we are “I.” Why?  Because in a child’s  immature mind, it’s so natural for him(her) to connect his(her) own behavior with the parents’ ( or caregivers’ ) feelings or desires that he(she) will also assume only when he(she) does things well, he(she) will be loved. On the contrary, a child even believes that once he(she) doesn’t perform well, he (she)will certainly be refused by his (her)parents ( or caregivers ) and not worthy of being loved at all even when somebody truly loves him(her).

Do you feel you used to play some kind of role in your family just for getting the CONDITIONAL LOVE  from your parents ( or caregivers ) and also fulfill their desires? Do you know we are perfectly created imperfect human beings? Because we are imperfect, we are never all good or all bad. Do you know what UNCONDITIONAL LOVE means? UNCONDITIONAL LOVE means we’re loved as a whole—-including our strengths, weaknesses, successes, and failures in us. God’s love is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. When we’re loved unconditionally, we can love ourselves unconditionally, and we have the potential to love others unconditionally.

John Bradshaw said, “Perfectionism is learned when one is valued only for doing. when parental acceptance and love are dependent upon performance, perfectionism is created.” “Perfectionism always creates a superhuman measure by which one is compared. Perfectionism leads to comparison making.” Maybe you used to be compared with other siblings at home or your parents (caregivers ) might usually compare your performance with your friends’ from school. Maybe you’ve already felt distressed at work, too.  Looks like you’re in the trap!

There’s no doubt for me that there’s a nurturing form of competitiveness. Such competition will drive us to do better and expand and grow. However, Perfectionism spawns conditional love, destructive competitiveness, and self denial.  Are you the victim of perfectionism or making the others victims of perfectionism? If you’re the former one, are you suffering from depression now? Are you worried a lot about not meeting other people’s (parent’s, teacher’s, spouse’s, manager’s…, etc.) expectations? If you’re the latter one, somebody may be a depression sufferer now because of you, and you surely were a victim of perfectionism before. Then, what is depression?  Basically  “Depression consists of a denial of one’s own emotional reactions. This denial begins in the service of an absolutely essential adaptation during childhood and indicates an early injury.” said Alice Miller.

God can help and heal you. Tell God the situation you’re struggling with now and let Jesus heal your wounds in your heart. You can also pray God’s Holy Spirit to help you retrace every event which has happened and hurt you in the past. Be sure to let the emotions truly come out. The past memories might have been buried very deeply, but Jesus is the Lord, He knows everything. Jesus had become a human on earth before, He experienced what we experienced and of course He felt what we felt.  There was a woman mentioned in the Bible named Hannah, and she was the mother of Samuel.  Hannah came to God and talked to God when she was deeply sad. She said, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the Lord.” 1 Samuel 1:15-16

What does that mean about Hannah’s pouring out her soul to the Lord? It’s referring to Hannah telling the living God everything from her heart!  God had mercy for Hannah, too. God healed her heart and restored her mind eventually. I hope Hannah’s story would give us some encouragement, and we must not give up ourselves. For the Lord is our hope, we’re not hopeless indeed! Dear friends, if you’re not a believer yet, I wish you would give yourself a chance to further know about Jesus Christ. Never give up!!!

Next time I’d like to talk about how the school system has been bonded by perfectionism. See you then, and

God bless,

Miriam White

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