“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us…” Ephesians 3:20

Hi there,

I have received a few questions from you asking that why they always think “He hasn’t ever thought of going out with me, and just sleeps all day long when he’s not working.” “I’m always on my own. He never takes care of the kids.” “She always gossips, but knows nothing.” “He is so bossy just like my dad.” “She likes everything to be perfect. I just fail her and she is always mad of me.” “I don’t know why I just want to leave her alone.”  Are these people now suffering from the laws of “root of judgement and expectation” and “sow and reap”? Yes, it is likely.

There was a case written in the book of “The Transformation of the Inner Man” talking about how a woman was controlled by her own compulsive behaviors in her marriage and how she got the immediate effect from the prayer. She was completely set free by the Lord! The Lord Jesus rescued her marriage as well. The following story was her testimony. The woman, Ann, was a Christian who loved the Lord and her husband. Her husband was a devout Christian as well.  However, she couldn’t control herself but often out of her home, got drunk and committed adultery with a man who she didn’t like at all. She was so confused by herself that she asked for help from Rev. Sandford.

Ann was adopted since her birth by a couple who were kind and loved the Lord.  Ann’s original mother, still didn’t get married when she was 40 years old, but committed adultery with an alcoholic who was married. The man chose to leave her mother and went back to be with his wife. Ann’s mother was pregnant. She was so ashamed of herself for the pregnancy that she decided to give the baby away.  The baby was Ann. Ann didn’t know anything about her original parents when she grew up. However, through the prayer this time, the Holy Spirit of God revealed her past story. The past story was eventually proved by Ann’s adoptive mother to be true.

We must understand that our spirits can sense everything which happened in the surroundings even when we were still so little in the mothers’ wombs. “When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.”( Luke1:41 )  I just recalled a healing case from my church before. A sister came to the pastor and told him that she was so afraid of death every day. She was just like facing the moment of the instant death. After the prayer, the sister saw the picture coming up in her mind showing she was curling up herself in her mother’s womb and her mother was lying on the surgery bed waiting for the abortion. At last, her mother changed her mind, so the sister didn’t die from the abortion at that time. However, she had sensed she was facing the instant death. She just knew it!

Rev. Sandford thought when Ann was in her mother’s womb, her spirit had sensed everything and judged her parents about their adultery, drunkenness, and her dad forsaking her and her mom. Because of Ann’s judgements, she would surely do a few things herself: 1) forsook somebody (her husband) just as herself was forsaken by her dad; 2) got drunk; and 3) committed adultery. Praise the Lord! Not all of the judgements will have this kind of strong power. Some of them had been purified by the blood of Jesus when we were at the moment of believing in Him, but for those malicious judgements would have the destructive power.

Thank God! I’ve ever helped a small group of women on their marriage relationships before. I admit I’m not mature in my own yet at present. However, I just felt God wanted me to do His work, so I just did it. I shared with them how they could be transformed. Ultimately, first of all, they told me that they figured out their parents marriage relationships had much impacts on their own. Secondly, they understood that both sides (husband and wife) in the marriage had to take the responsibility of managing their marriage and making it better.

Ann’s husband came to pray, too. There was no doubt he had the root of judgement and expectation in him for years. What was it? It was: his woman would forsake him and commit adultery. Therefore, I totally agree that a married person (man or woman) is supposed to ask oneself why he (she) doesn’t become a better or stronger person because of marrying me? Is it possible that my bitter root defiles him (her)? Am I reaping what I sowed through him (her)?

1. Forgiveness:

If we figure out a bitter root behind the problem, there might have an original event out there. Although we may not have any memory of the event when we have grown up, and we do not even feel we ever hate anybody, we’d better face the fact and God’s laws by faith. If there is obvious evidence showing we’re reaping something now, we can proclaim in the name of the Lord Jesus by faith forgive the inner child within and also forgive the sin of judgement we’ve committed. Except for asking the forgiveness for the inner child within, it’s also very essential to ask the forgiveness in the Lord for the sins we’ve committed and the people who hurt us in the past related to this reaping issue. The complete healing will only happen when we can truly appreciate and bless those who were used for us to reap the evil consequence.

2. The cross:

The original event would result in forming certain structure in your personality. The habits and expectations resulted from the judgement will be changed only when bring them to the cross and crucify them. Do it. The Lord Jesus will set you free from the bondage. It is also helpful to say it out loud in your daily prayer to your old structure and tell it how much you hate it, refuse it and don’t want it to control your life. “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” ( Romans 12:9 ) As for the “oath” we mentioned last time, just deal with it the same way. “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires.” ( Galatians 5:24 )

3. God’s Word:

“The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul. The statutes of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple. The precepts of the Lord are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the Lord are radiant, giving light to the eyes. The fear of the Lord is pure, enduring forever. The ordinances of the Lord are sure and altogether righteous. They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb. By them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward. Who can discern his errors? Forgive my hidden faults. Keep your servant also from willful sins; may they not rule over me. Then will I be blameless, innocent of great transgression.” ( Psalm 19:7-13 ) keep on reading God’s words! “Blessed is he whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered.” ( Psalm 32:1 )

4. Healing and transformation:

Do the above steps from 1-3. I think you are not far from God’s healing. Perhaps, one day the most surprising thing in your life will happen: the person you hated most before becomes the person you love most now. Give all the glory to our wonderful God!

Wish you have a great Thanksgiving time,

Miriam White

“I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better….I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being,…..” ( Ephesians 1:17, 3:16 )